Kim Le Tet
Kinesiology is all about balance. When it comes to mental health, we bring balance back by recognising the over-thinking, over-critical dysfunction of the mind.
In our Kinesiology time together, we use muscle testing to “talk” to the body and its energy field. This is also known as the innate wisdom of the body. My role is to facilitate, translate and help move any obstacles that are stopping you from feeling balanced, calm, complete and peaceful. We find the root cause of the issue and integrate it, release it and/or reprogram belief systems that no longer is serving us. The symptoms (I.e. feelings of anxiety, feeling stuck, lack of energy or motivation, pain etc) naturally goes away when the root cause is addressed.
Here are 3 common causes to an imbalance in mental wellbeing and the Mindfulness practices to help you through challenging moments in life
1. Wanting to be ‘there’ and not here (stuck in the future). This is one of the main causes of prolonged stress. When one believes they will finally be happy or complete when they have this, complete that, achieve this, earn more money, buy that car, land that job, have that family etc.
Progress and growth are natural and fulfilling, but any negative self-talk is not. Instead, it is futile and draining on your energy. It might sound like this
• “My house always has issues, once we buy our dream home, it will be perfect”
• “I don’t earn enough, it’s so frustrating. I need to land that promotion. I’ll be able to afford to buy <insert your choice> and I’ll finally be happy.”
• “The traffic is terrible! I need to get to _____ otherwise I’ll be late.”
Practice being aware of this dysfunctional mind-talk and that realise that the negative talk is unnecessary and does not actually help you. Breath and drop your awareness down from the thinking/conditioned mind, into the body. Ground into the present moment. Accept fully where you are and then make tangible plans to move forward towards your goal, without the unnecessary negative talk.
2. Worry (stuck in the future)
I call these the rabbit-hole thoughts, once you follow the rabbit down one hole, you’ll get lost in the myriad of tunnels. This analogy represents how one worrying thought, can take you down infinite scenarios of what “could go wrong”.
Again, these thoughts are not reality. They do not actually exist, except in your head. Let that sink in. “But what if one of these scenarios actually happens?”. But what if it doesn’t? Then you have just spent hours, days, weeks, possibly even months or more, worrying about a situation that may never happen. And all that precious time being stuck in the thoughts in your head, how much have you missed out on in the present moment? Did you notice your daughter kick that awesome goal and wanted to share that special moment with you? Did you realise your son needing comforting from a hard day at school? Did you realise that 20 minutes had gone by, and you were stuck in the thoughts of your mind?
Breathe, connect with your lower body, and choose not to follow the ‘rabbit’ down the hole. Every time you find yourself following the rabbit, breathe and connect with your body. This takes away the “charge” or pull that these thoughts have over you, eventually you will be able to watch them come and go in your mind like clouds in the sky. They will have no power over you.
3. Holding onto the past (stuck in the past).
When we are literally stuck in the past in our mind. We re-play on loop, scenarios of the story of the past, not realising that it no longer exists other than in our mind. We perpetuate the feelings of resentment, feelings of guilt, shame, fear, longing or anger towards a person, situation, or experience over and over again. These emotions become ‘stuck’ inside and overwhelm us when they get ‘triggered’.
Again, awareness of the dysfunctional thought pattern is key. Then choose to live in the present moment. Consciously choose to release these old emotions by acknowledging them and then move them out. One way of moving them out is to write a letter, then bury or burn it. Journalling is also a wonderful practice to move the energy of thought from your mind, out onto the book.
Talking from my own personal experience and those of spiritual teachers; The Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Eckhart Tolle – these practices work! The freedom, peace and clarity from this practice is worth it.
These tips will help you in everyday moments, but sometimes we need help to get us going. Or some support to remind us to come back into the present moment.
That’s what I’m here for, to support you on your journey. If this resonates with you, I invite you to book a complimentary ‘Discovery Call’ with me, where we can explore your goals towards mental health and overall well-being.